As a youth steps into independence, the people surrounding them can either lift them up or hold them back. Friendships should encourage growth, confidence, and trust, but not every relationship is healthy. Learning to recognize the difference can protect a youth’s well-being and help the, secure the kind of support system they deserve by building healthy relationships.
Signs of an Unhealthy Friendship
- Constant negativity: If a friend is always criticical, mocking, or makes people feel “less than,” it can damage self-esteem.
- One-sided effort: Healthy friendships involve give-and-take. If one person is always the one reaching out, helping, or listening but not supported in return, it may not be balanced.
- Peer pressure: Friends who push other to do things that go against their values, goals, or safety aren’t respectful.
- Lack of trust: If a friend shares private information or betrays confidence, that’s a red flag.
- Exhaustion, not joy: After spending time together, both people should feel encouraged or cared for, not drained or anxious.
Why It Matters
Unhealthy friendships can distract you from your goals, chip away at your confidence, and sometimes lead to risky situations. On the other hand, positive relationships can help you stay focused, motivated, and connected as you work toward independence.
Choosing Healthier Connections
- Look for respect and honesty. A good friend accepts boundaries and tells the truth even when it’s hard.
- Seek mutual support. You should both feel comfortable leaning on each other during challenges.
- Pay attention to how you feel. If someone consistently makes you feel unsafe or unwanted, you’re allowed to step away.
- Set boundaries. It’s okay to say no or limit time with someone who isn’t good for you.
- Find uplifting spaces. Join clubs, sports, community groups, or volunteer activities where people share your interests and values.
Final Thought
Building independence isn’t just about paying bills or finding housing, it’s also about choosing the right people to walk alongside you. Healthy friendships bring encouragement, joy, and trust. Every youth deserve relationships that help them become the best version of themselves!
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